Fear of Intimacy and Loving Again
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Best Selling Author , writes… …
A Relationship Coach for people with self-confidence or self-esteem issues is extremely helpful in addressing this following question. Women seem to suffer the most from self-esteem, sense of abandonment and worthiness issues. Coaching Life for Women is one way to solve this issue in life coaching. Anita asks: “Are some of us just meant to be alone”? Anita, since you responded to the survey concerning love and the Law of Attraction, I’m assuming you’ve thinking about finding love for yourself. There are many who choose to keep away from serious relationships. And that isn’t necessarily the case for a person who’s given up because they’ve continuously failed in the past. Not a thing is wrong with wanting to be without a serious relationship. Life can be fulfilling and fantastic with any choice you end up with.
As long as you know you are deciding that instead of throwing up your hands out of frustration that you have not created the relationship of a lifetime. You can have it all in a relationship and in your life.
If you could view yourself from the perspective of Source or your Inner Being, or Higher Self, you’d see a beautiful, magnificent, brilliant, connected being. Then life begins to occur around us. Our oblivious parents, teachers, and elders, in an attempt to teach us, tell us from day one what we need to look out for, stop us, caution us, and attempt to shelter us, effectively having us adhere to their fear and projections of insecurity instead of tuning in to our own guidance. OK, I’ll grant you as simple new creatures we do need protection. Fine. But shortly following they understand to function by themselves, self-awareness should be part of the training for the small children.
Well-intentioned guides desire to do the best thing so they guide, caution, admonish, and scare young ones to make them behave. This only underscores a level of insecurity and inability. The feeling of not-enoughness gets instilled as a child.
Brain research now explains to us that before we are 7, we’re so open and available to receive, we have no filtering ability at all. We go around in a sort of hypnagogic trance and become amazed with whatever happens to enter our life experience. It is no wonder we have deeply ingrained, although misplaced, beliefs about an imperfect nature. By the time we are 6 years old, we’ve heard the word “NO” approximately 60,000 times. Watch out for that, that could hurt you, be careful, don’t drop that. The recurring communication is you are unworthy, you cannot trust yourself, you don’t understand what you are doing, and so on.
Our parents and elders were indeed well-meaning. They simply intended for our well-being. But you can see how easily we’ve been whisked away from our inherent beauty and brilliance.
I suggest that you go easy with yourself and let yourself have a chance. First off, it’s not your fault. It is not even the fault of your elders. They were taught that way too. You can stop the prevalence of low self-esteem on yourself and everyone you know. You deserve to have anything you desires.
Do your very best to express yourself love and self-acceptance. Adhere to yourself as you would a beloved child. Forgive her for her shortcomings. The truth is, the Universe appreciates, Spirit admires you, and your Inner Being loves you. Why? Because you ARE adorable. And that IS the reality!